Successful whether you like it or not


Creative Life

For every spark of life, successful manifestation of its intention is inevitable. You, too, are luminous sparks of endless life. From the start you are lavishly endowed with everything you need to flourish, to succeed in manifesting anything and everything you sincerely desire or even unwittingly do not want.

There really is nothing to chase or grab hold of and hide from suspects or hoard for the days of famine you robotically construct in your mind. You are ready now to transcend this primitive, yet requisite, stage of awakening through forced actions—feeling forced by the expectations of people you respect more than your very own self; plus 12 to 20 years of sponge schooling in lieu of self-examination which inspires best actions. Are you ready to abandon your attachment to lassitude and neediness? Are you ready to jump off the jam-packed ledge of cowards and listen to and follow your deepest calling?

Success is not an enigma. Nor is it allotted to a privileged minority.  If achieving money, fame or coveted awards is the sum of success, then, at least 90% of the world’s peoples are failures. Of course, you know better! The first experience of mega success occurred in the moment you escaped the womb, somebody cut the umbilical cord and you swallowed your first liquid food. After that, everything you have learned and have practiced enough (whether labeled right or wrong) has prepared you for the next sequence in your upward spiral development. So then, why does the majority of humanity minimize or prevent their innate propensity to succeed? Here is my abridged view.

You have been duped both by implicit and brazen advertisements since babyhood. You get the impression that phantom puppeteers control the brains of ad agencies, which bombard your senses with streaming adverts to induce feelings of unworthiness and inferiority unless you succumb to excessive consumerism. They maintain their position of puppeteer of the masses by strengthening the fear of being alone with yourself, ridicule from others and of taking full responsibility for your life. They provoke an infantile wish to be breastfed and the sole object of attention—i.e., narcissism.

Thanks to maliciously crafted crowd-hypnosis, you blindly rush to join the self-defacement society. I am not speaking about egoism: the need to fit in so not to risk exclusion from the flock or to pretend humility and kindness and appear lofty or privileged. I am referring to collective self-defacement as an effective mechanism to keep you distracted from the bigger self within and your original plan for exploring life in human form.

Caution! We are not jumping on the victim wagon here. Remember: you were born with the capacity to decide how you want to experiment with your life—via resistance, struggle or flow, a state of allowing. You can succeed on every level by simply being true to yourself, authentic in your intention. If you deliberately let your life flourish, even though you will not know beforehand the sequence of actions and coincidences, you will easily do whatever is required to transmute your intention into physical reality. No one can cause you to fail. No one. Because what you are witnessing today is the result of your choice. Therefore, you are creating an endless success story right here in the timeless now.

“If it is to be, it is up to me.” – Anonymous

 (I cover in depth the subject of success in my book-in-progress. I will keep you informed as it progresses.)

Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.

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Until then,

Allow happiness!!


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Copyright © 2010-2012 Thandiwe Chappot, thefemininefeminine®. All rights reserved worldwide.

The Danger of “living within your means”

Good morning Great People,

Most of us have been taught that in order to live without accumulating debt we must live within, preferably significantly below, our means. Means, of course, refers to money. I do not completely agree with this practice because there’s a subtle suggestion of scarcity and lack beliefs rather than fearless and wise use of plenitude.

Common counsel says manage your spending priorities by either tithing first (an act of faith) or by paying for the necessities of life first (food, housing…). Next, you should save a fixed percentage of your gross income or revenues and if there is a modest surplus, you can spend it on prudently selected ‘little pleasures’ and somewhat alleviate the frustration of not having quite enough or pinching pennies.

A more elaborate strategy recommends: first, pay yourself by saving a percentage (it will increase as revenues grow) in order to invest and ultimately generate sufficient passive income that will set you free from sweat and toil. Second, attend to the necessities of living and pay your bills as best you can. And last, the only money you spend on pleasures will come from net profits from your investments. In both scenarios, you are advised to manage what you have wisely, depending on your circumstances, point of view, lifestyle goals and personality: the latter plan appears to emerge from the philosophy of wealth consciousness in respect to finance. But the problem inherent in believing only money is means prohibits most of us from seeing beyond the jingles in our pockets or the fluctuating totals on our ledger sheets.

In other words, we construct a one-grain-of-sand view of means, source and life. We believe our extremely limited human perspective reveals the totality of a situation, subject or person. However, if you would blink one more time, you will know that no being or thing is ever left out of the ineffable goings-on in the universe, on this earth, because each equally is an indispensable aspect of it. And this fact applies to means.

One Source Many Means

Ponder this. Means is any and all avenues or channels through which we receive the fulfillment of our needs and real desires. Therefore, each of us is a means via our natural gifts, talents and skills, being a living example, sharing what we have. It also appears as opportunities, intuition or flash insights, a gut feeling, money, ideas to act on, unexpected gifts, serendipity, a particular person, objects, solutions, strong persistent pull, sudden urge, nudging or prompt to say or do something immediately. Means shows up as media, coincidence, seemingly unrelated events, conditions and unexpected changes in lifestyle. It is the individual’s responsibility to develop acute, alert awareness while maintaining a relaxed receptive attitude. Otherwise, we might confuse means with its source. Ignorance of this subtle difference has caused the interment of countless numbers of unknown geniuses.

You might ask, “Is not means and source the same?” Yes, in that, as far as I am concerned, there is only the One (infinite, eternal source) expressing itself as infinite many forms (right-for-now means). So the means is individuated expressions of the One. Therefore, the One is the essence, source of all means. But because of deeply engrained beliefs sustained by the masses that money, prestigious titles, social status, power of influence, health & beauty and fame are the source of happiness, success, romance and love, we function from a platform of fear, anxiety, jealousy, competitiveness, greed and yes, poverty. We witness the precariousness of means and adopt the one-grain-of-sand conclusion… giving means the post it can never occupy: the source.

So what shall we do? To start, I would suggest trying out the steps I am going to outline in this post. They worked for me! This is how it all started.

As usual, I tend to happen upon insights, situations, people, opportunities, etc. that move my life forward. One day, I happened to notice myself assessing the purpose of my surroundings, my body, family and friends, current lifestyle and how I brought them about. I had never before felt such depth of clarity, gratitude and appreciation for me, everyone, everything, including very painful encounters and situations. The insights that emerged carried me deeper to understand the subtle but huge difference between source and means. I eventually discovered security and independence from within, which is not at all measured by external reality. I will speak in depth about this in a future post.

Mind you, the process I went through was not without emotional pain associated with fear and doubt. But my willingness and readiness to know was powerful enough to keep me on track during the darkest hours. And there were many. This is what I learned to do and I still do it when I revert to irresponsible activities—blame, anger, cowardice or self-pity.

1)– In a casual way, look beyond the obvious for the purpose or the intention behind your desire. Expect to dig deep until you sense your single core intention. Refrain from judging or justifying your sincere desires that are deemed unacceptable by others. The opinion of others about you is irrelevant and is none of your business. Note that intention is the command-energy that summons your desire into physical reality. Your desire will appear to show up from out there via various channels or means. However, it already exists in its full potential within you but only your readiness for it allows you to ‘see’ what we label: a manifestation.

2)– Allow yourself to enjoy experiencing the multiple dimensions of your thoughts, feelings, insights and urges to take action in an unexpected way. It will never be an urge to abuse yourself or others! Be sure not to judge or label your experience. Simply observe yourself and respond spontaneously to whatever comes up. If you allow it, rather than resist whatever is happening, you will receive tremendous clarity, insights, solutions, positive closure on dangling issues and other lovely surprises. You will feel more alive, confident, at ease in your body, at ease in your world.

Next, in the same relaxed manner, repeat steps 1 and 2 for all living beings whether humans, animals, moon, plants, rocks, country, annoyances; and your personal belongings, relationships, current situation, state of mind and body, lifestyle, your goals and not the puny goals others may prescribe for you. I repeat: unless someone’s goal for you is bigger and more inspiring than the one you have already set for yourself, trash it without apologies or guilt.

Last, if you are truly open to being free, you will notice the folly in placing your life in the hands of fleeting channels or means—expecting them to offer you permanence of security, safety, lifestyle, love, income or happiness. The source of you, the source of your experience and the source of the means through which you give and receive is the same source of every other experience in the universe, simultaneously. Means emerges from source, not the reverse. Remember: One source and infinite forms of means or channels.

Sidebar: the reason folks go on strikes, murder, burglarize, commit suicide, join sects and switch political parties is due to prolonged frustration from depending on means–like parents, spouse, employers, government policies, professional titles or clients that will one day retire from serving you–as your inexhaustible source.  Nothing made, a finished product, is the source of itself. Can the pot make the potter?

So now you know. Let me show you a little trick…it is so simple you will be surprised even though this bit of information is older than the hills. Nothing is new here. An example: imagine that you want X amount of money this month. Be honest with yourself—know your underlying intention for wanting it. Do you want to impress folks and get their approval or envy and get noticed so you can feel worthy? Or simply to feel good about being able to spend as you like and enjoy your purchase without experiencing negative consequences? Why is self-honesty important? You will manifest your underlying intention, which may or may not include the object you think you want. In other words, you may receive money via familiar or unexpected channels or the object you wish to purchase without having to pay for it yourself. Rather than wracking your brain about exactly how or when you will manifest your intention, go about doing the things that inspire happiness, activities that produce pleasurable experiences.

You can start by sincerely appreciating what and who you are, your current situation and everything you have so far. You can practice your talents, the gifts you were born with and develop your natural skills. You can indulge in well-being activities or walk in nature or engage in pleasant small talk with an elderly neighbor who craves human contact. You can apply for a job or contact potential clients or post content on your website. Why not learn something new? Point is: engage in any activity you feel drawn to that feels just right in your mind and body right here right now. Then your doing will be a pleasure, an attractor of love, success and opulence rather than tainted with anxiety, anger, thoughts of lack and scarcity.

Because your mind is not at all focused on the how or when your need or desire will appear in your experience, best results will happen quicker and you will feel as if it sort of manifested without your input. At least that has been my experience more and more frequently.

Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.

So post your comments below before you forget. And if you find something useful in this blog, why not subscribe so you can receive email notification each time I publish a post. And recommend this blog to others who might benefit. Thank you in advance.

Shall we meet up again this week?

Until then,

Allow happiness!


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Giver or Taker—Is there a difference?

Giver or Taker—Is there a difference?

Giving is Love in action. It appears as a strong persistent desire to express itself–a nagging urge that self-transmutes into an intention or decision to give something that will highly benefit others (people, animals, vegetation, the earth, stars) and to get well paid for it.  However, the offering itself feels more important than  concern for remuneration. Why? We know already that unrelenting giving is the magic potion for lifelong happiness and ever-expanding prosperity. It is the only guarantee that I know of for receiving continuous streams of  significant income and incredible opportunities to express more  of our potential and countless other desirable things.  A key is to give repeatedly the best thing in the best way, then inevitably, an assortment of the best things rush in from all directions.

Giving makes living super simple, fun, spontaneous, fearless, easy, fresh, inspiring, harmonious, beautiful, rich, varied, flowing, light and nice, regardless of appearances surrounding us that scream the contrary. It flattens the wrinkles in events that induce sadness. All actions, the doing, are inspired from the urge to share with others the things we most enjoy: the talents and gifts we were born with. And each individual on this planet has something to give that is needed today, right where we are standing.

However, don’t think for a moment that giving starts and stops with vocation. Giving is a round-the-clock activity. It includes the whole physical experience to practice complete “yes.” Okay, but what does it mean to give if you don’t know what or how?  Start by asking the Self (God, Being, One…):

What is the best thing I can GIVE right now, in this moment?

Then immediately do what the Voice (intuition) tells you, totally trusting its intelligence and the feel-right feeling about it. Go all the way, do your best from start to finish. Even if the best thing is to relax in a chair and stair at the ceiling for an hour. Surrender to the moment. We might be instructed to call up someone to channel a message or do something inhabitual that will result in a business connection or ask for forgiveness or forgive or allow a lonely stranger to share their story about something trivial or take responsible actions on an unresolved situation. (Fret not! For the questioning, plus doing, leads us to the work that we came here to deliver to the world.) When an activity feels complete, repeat the question/response until just before falling asleep. You will be gleefully surprised the next morning.

I have discovered that by repeatedly posing this simple question and doing what the response instructed me to do has dissolved several long-standing challenges. Even if I forget and momentarily revert back to taker mode, which I will elaborate on in just a minute.

Once we are clear about our vocation, we will need to practice sabotage prevention tactics. Otherwise, drifting ever so solidly into the ‘No, I can’t, so I’m taking my share” mode will spoil our chances for happiness and prosperity.

— Eckhart Tolle says: “Be total in what you do.” I explain: give undivided attention to what you are now doing; engage each act with care and appreciation; and only do one thing at a time. This includes chores, interacting with a difficult person, etc.

— Use your inherent talents to fill a current need in the world, benefitting countless numbers of recipients.

Feel appreciation for everyone (if possible tell the person), including so-called strangers. There is always something admirable regardless of appearances or behavior.

— Consistently show kindness towards your body by giving it the nourishment, rest, movement, pampering, intimacy and protection it requires for optimum, harmonious functioning.

— Consistently show appreciation for your mind by choosing thoughts that expand creative expression, intelligence and kindness, induce fresh ideas, happiness, love and invites pure thought or direct knowing.

—  Think and speak about and promote only the positive in the person, thing or situation.

— Inspire the best in everyone you encounter.

— Give the benefit of doubt without exception.

—  Allow space for all the seasons of life. Every situation, condition, event is fleeting. Allow the  inevitable, natural coming and going of all life forms.

— Do only what you really want to do…or need to do in this moment.

— Think and feel complete “yes” to what is (surface reality), while remaining acutely aware of the background Reality whose perfectness never changes.

— Be completely disinterested in malicious gossip: ridiculing yourself nor anyone else, cracking jokes at the other’s expense, breaching confidences, jealousy, defacing people, trying to be superior or inferior.

Now that we know what and how to do, before we jump into action, let’s assess our current level of readiness, our knowledge of subtle traps that await the slightest deviation from integrity—that flash of smugness, fear of you-name-it that distorts reason, seducing us to be takers and hoarders for fear of lack in the near future. I invite you to ponder the following questions and be totally honest with yourself!

— Am I ready to be happy, self-reliant and prosperous?

— Am I commited to listening to and following my intuition exclusively?

— Can I commit to going all the way to give my best?

— Am I okay with exhibiting love in public by giving to every person (no exceptions) as I want others to give to me?

Unless we can sincerely answer “yes,” we will not be able to sustain commitment long enough to bring our vocation into visibility.

A word about takers. They aggressively act, depending on the situation, overtly or covertly. Their doing arises from the survival mode: instinctive, very present, unpredictable or hard driven efforting, take all & leave nothing for others, burdened by scarcity beliefs—fear of loss, lack, limitation, failure, ridicule, entrapment, the unknown, losing market position. The taker believes their physical self is the sole doer yet worries about their vulnerability. They almost always sacrifice health, family, intimacy and relaxation in order to succeed in squeezing out the other as much as possible. Takers are the primary ambassadors of the medical, pharmaceutical and recreation drug industries. They support ther mega pofits scraped off the backs of unaware people. There’s a taker in each of us: BEWARE.

In sum, commit to giving your best to the best thing in the best way 24/7 and you will begin to harvest the best today.

I will post more on this subject in the near future.

Please share your ideas, comments below. I really want to hear from you! And I will respond.

Enjoy your harvest,


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